How to cope with “Why?”

Coping

Why?

It’s the question that haunts us all after loss.    It takes over our thoughts, highjacks our focus and robs us of sleep.   It tortures us with it’s pursuit of all the most unanswerable questions, often forming a repetitive loop of painful, intrusive thoughts.

Why did this have to happen?  Why do other people get to keep their children?  Why me?  Why?

The question may take many forms, but the risk is always the same.  Once it grabs hold of us, the question “why” can pull us deep into the darkness and into a spiral of depression and anxiety.

So in this Q & A video, I’m jumping in to help break that thought loop for Carrie, who seemed to be caught in the grips of that question when she reached out and sent me her “Ask April” email.

This week’s Q & A is an important one, so grab a tea, get your journal and give yourself the next five minutes of your time because you are about to discover:

  • the reason the question “why” is both inevitable & universal
  • what it is you are really doing to yourself when you chase after this question
  • what you need to know to protect yourself from “why”
  • how to stop the thought loop from pulling you further down into the darkness

 

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Check it out here and if you found this helpful, I would love it if you shared this dose of comfort and support with a friend who may need it too.

This land of loss can be such a lonely, desolate place.  Let’s stay connected.

Do you have a question or topic for me?  Send it to me here and it may be the focus of my next video or post.

Thanks,

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